Monday, December 21, 2009

We Have A Biter

This is a picture my mom took of Brody and me today while we were shopping in Branson. Mom and I just went for the day to do a little last minute shopping. While we were posing for this picture, there were two men sitting on the bench to the side of us. Brody kept laughing and smiling at them. They were waving and talking to him as well. When we finished with the picture, I put Brody down and he walked over to these two men. I followed him closely and stood near the bench while he "talked" to them.

He walked right up to one of the men, who was probably in his late 50s. (His age has nothing to do with the story, other than the fact that I wanted you to know he wasn't an elderly man.) Anyway, Brody walked up to the man and said, "Hiiiiii!", in his best southern accent. As soon as the last "i" rolled off of his tongue he leaned over and BIT THE MAN'S THIGH!!!

I will repeat that one more time. OUR SON WALKED UP TO AN INNOCENT STRANGER AND BIT HIM. It was seriously in slow motion, and I froze. I didn't know what to do. I just watched in horror. My mind seriously could not comprehend what was happening. I thought I was going to faint. Really I did.

After about 3 seconds, which really felt like 10 minutes, I yanked Brody off of the man's leg. Brody then looked up at him and smiled really big. I couldn't decide if it was a prideful smile like "Yes, I just did that", or if it was "Yum. Your blue jeans are tasty." Either way, I was horrified. HORRIFIED.

But what was evening more traumatizing for me was when I looked down at the man's thigh and saw 8 little teeth indentions in his blue jeans with a big ring of drool around them. OH MY WORD. Help me, Lord. I thought I was going to D-I-E!

So what's a mom to do? Well, I will tell you what this idiot did. I immediately bent down and reached within 1/36 of an inch of his jeans, because I was going to wipe his leg. What in the world was I thinking? I didn't even know this man and I am sure after being bit by a little boy, he didn't want the crazy mom to wipe his pant leg. So I stopped just seconds away from awkwardness. I then did what any normal person would do....I apologized profusely. I mean at least 37 times.

I'm sorry. I am SOOOO sorry. Oh my, I am so so so sorry. Sir, I am so sorry he did that. Oh please, I am so sorry.

Then, the clincher. This actually came out of my mouth.

"He bites as a sign of affection. I think he likes you."

Y'all I'm not even joking!! You can ask my mom. I said that. Why? What in the world was I thinking? It doesn't matter if he was biting for blood....there is NO excuse for it. NONE. (PS...He really does bite me as a sign of affection, but I will talk about that in a minute.)

So we left, but not before I practically bowed to the man. I felt like I just needed one last apology/sign of respect, so I sort of bowed as we walked away, while continuing to apologize. Are you imagining it? Yeah, it was that bad and awkward.

Soooooooo there you have it. We are in a biting stage. I am just going to admit it. I'm no longer in denial.

"My name is Jennifer and my son is a biter."

See, no denial. I am ready to face it head-on.

In all seriousness, for the last month or so, he has been biting when he gets excited or is happy to see us. It really is like a kiss but he just has sooo much emotion that he bites. We have popped his hand and said "no no" continually, but obviously, he still bites. I don't want him to bite another child or another adult for that matter. We have an idea of how we are going to go about handling this. Hopefully, the only thing he will be biting in the future is his food.

PLEASE make me feel better and tell me your children bit at some point, too. It really will make me feel better about today if I know that I'm not alone!

Oh and I will confess that at some point this afternoon, I did just have to laugh about it. Really. It was so crazy! :)

53 comments:

Kelly said...

Harper has bit me a few times. She will just clamp down on my arm when I'm holding her and bite down. I always SCREAM!
I would ABSOLUTELY die if she did that in public (but I wouldn't be surprised) - I have no early idea what I would do.
BLESS YOUR HEART!

Lea Liz said...

Oh my goodness!!! Little Brody!!

My brody does the same thing. He almost does it as a fit! If he is mad or if I pick him up from doing something he comes at my face and "tries" to bite and soemtimes when its not a fit he does it and it is like he is trying to kiss me.. I do the same and pat his little hand and tell him no!!!!!! I am sure they all go thru this!!

Hope you all have a great Christmas!!

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Danae Jones said...

Ha! I have to come out of "Lurkdom" on this post. I have a son that turned one in September. We've had the biting issue as well, mostly when I'm holding him and he's bored or hyper. I think he does it because it always gets a rise out of me. I just have to remember to keep a straight face and communicate the somberness of it! Hopefully he'll get bored with it and move on. Just know you're not alone!!

Kristi said...

Luckily my girls are not there yet. I just pray we skip that phase, but if not our plan is to bite back. It sounds horrible but many of the books I have read recommend it, and my mom said my sister bit and once she bit her back she never bit again. That is our plan, but everyone has to come up with their own, and since ours aren't biting yet I am sure our plan could change once we get there.

Mary Madeline said...

Oh yes, both of my babies were biters. Marisa bit Jackson when we brought him home from the hospital and Jackson bit a boy at our very first play group. I was mortified. I feel your pain!!!

Tadd and Elizabeth said...

Sophie bit Ella tonight and left teeth marks! She doesn't usually do it unless a few times when she is playing but this time she wanted something back from her so she just bit her and brought Ella to tears. Anyway, she spent about minute "kind of in time out" on her bottom-ha! I hope her biting won't be a habit either. Good luck! Elizabeth

Kaitlin said...

I've also come out of "Lurkdom" too...I've been reading your blog for some time, I love it by the way! :) But your post made me laugh so much!!! I'm single-no husband or children-but I can just imagine your feelings of watching your son walk over to a stranger and bite them! You made the story so funny! Hopefully he'll at least keep his biting "in the family" so that you do not have to deal with that embarrassment again!

Becca said...

My son is 4 and when he was little some of his 'playdate' friends would bite him and I was horrified. Now we have a 13 month old girl and she tries to bite. If you do something she doesn't like she'll open wide and go for whatever is close. It's so crazy and so different from my son!!! At least you have a boy bitter:) It's like my little girl is an animal.

rae said...

I don't have any children, but I work with children Brody's age, and it is so normal!

I'm so sorry this embarrassing moment happened to you today. I think you handled it great! At least the man could tell by your actions how truly sorry (and shocked) you were!! You are a great mom, and I'm so glad you could have a little laugh about the situation!

Cori said...

I have a 14 month old and she's a sporadic biter; mostly when she's teething. Luckily, she only bites family though. HA!

This is what I've found works with Emory. If I'm holding her and she bites, I tell her "No" and then put her down. Of course, that breaks her heart, but it usually gets the point across (I also use that if she hits/scratches/etc.).
If you bites other people while they're holding her, I suggest the above.
Now if I'm not holding her and she bites, I usually just try and startle her by saying "Ow" loudly.

At this age, it really is just hit or miss. Hopefully he won't be a biter forever. ;)

The Neffs said...

I think that most children try biting to see what reaction they will get. Lillian bit me once or twice and I would just say no firmly and pat her and she never did it again. Don't feel bad. It is just a phase. Your son is precious. And this is not a negative reflection on him or you. Hugs, Ginger

Annie said...

This is too funny! Embaressing, I know, but oh so funny! Bless your heart... My best friend's little girl bit someone on church nursery one day, and the workers deemed her a "biter" when my friend picked her up... she wondered if she needed to get her a pin on button or some kind of "scarlet letter" that said, "I'm a biter"... Ha...

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Maranda said...

If spatting Brody's hand doesn't work, try flicking his mouth with your finger immediately after he bites. Our daughter bit occasionally too and this technique worked for her. It's painful to us as parents to knowingly inflict a small amount of pain to our child, but flicking his mouth might be more effective than spatting his hand because he's using his mouth to hurt others instead of his hands.

Sarah said...

Oh girl, come read my blog. I have at least two posts in the last 3 or 4 months about Ava biting at school. It's awful. She even bit me once b/c I was holding another baby!!!!! Totally normal and it totally stinks. Whenever she bites we just grab her little cheeks and get down to eye level with her and say very sternly, "DON'T BITE!" It's just a phase is what I keep hearing!! You aren't alone!

the mulhollands said...

When our son was Brody's age he would bite too when he was excited. He would come and give you a hug around your legs and then chomp down on your thigh. There were times when I would scream because it hurt so bad. I talked to our ped. and she said that it was normal and most kids do it because that's the only way they can commuicate right now because their vocab is limited. We would just keep repeating no bite, no bite. He caught on and the biting stage only lasted a month or so. Good luck

Single Mama said...

I have to tell you---

I got so excited when I was 2, (ME!), I bit my aunt. HARD!!! It was because I was excited and over emotional.

It does happen. It will go away :)

Summer said...

OMG I betcha you were horrified! Bless your heart! You did what any momma would do and try to wipe off the man's leg! Ha! Ha!

Anywho when Kelcee was like 1 1/2 we were watching TV and she just looked over at me and smiled and took a big bite of my arm! Oh yes I had 8 little teeth marks! That was the start of her little biting phase! It lasted about two weeks! Every time she did we said "no no no biting" and then gave her a time out! She hasn't bitten since, sooo they do grow out of it!
Summer :0)

Heather said...

Oh my goodness..this is hilarious but I know it's not funny at the time. Connor was never a biter, but my nephew was and my sister and I had to have "therapy" sessions because she was about to lose her mind every time he bit someone!!! I think he bit 2-3 kids at the babysitter's house and one at church!!!!! :) The good news is he won't do it forever!! (And that it makes for funny blog posts like this one!)

Mary said...

my son is 2 years 7 months and i can't say that he has ever bit us or anyone lol...but i know it's normal! lots of kids do it!

Kari Beth said...

i am dying laughing! hilarious, jennifer!

Mrs. Jenk said...

Good timing- yesterday my daughter bit her teacher on the boob twice! It was mortifying when she told me. It is totally excitement also, but I don't know how to stop her. I've said no loudly and sternly but she just shakes her head no and laughs so proudly that she knows how to respond to the word no. Good luck- I would die!

Sarah Broadus said...

Madyson (my 3 year old) was a biter. A BAD BITER. She would bite friends, family, strangers, anyone she could sink her teeth into. We would use Super Nannies..naughty chair...she would bite us then...at school they would seperate her for a while and say "we don't bite our friends" she would bite the teacher, this continued until one day she bit my 10 year old neice and she turned around and bit her back. She has never bitten again! So don't worry, your not the only one!!!

Brittany said...

Aww!!! Bless your heart girl! Mialyn is just now getting her two bottom teeth so I think I have a while before biting happens but I can see it now. I would have reacted in the same way! Little Brody is ADORABLE girl!

Erin said...

HA HA HA HA HA oh my goodness I am laughing so hard because I would have been just like you. Not knowing what to do and just kept saying sorry. I still can't believe he did that. I can see his little mind "Those men are checking my mom or grandma out, I am going to show him who is boss". Ok thats just my imagination but its funny.

But for real it can be an issue. I nanny a little girl who was a bitter. The mom let her bit her and I had to have a nice talk with them, because them letting her bit them even if it didnt hurt shows that its ok to bit. Even her brothers would think it was funny with they stuck there finger in her mouth and she bit soft but then would get mad when she bit hard.

Its a hard situation and get it under control as he is young! :) You can do it!

Claire said...

My son went to give his cousin a kiss. Instead he bit her cheek and left a huge bruise. She cried so hard, and I just wanted to crawl under a rock. It happens, and they eventually stop.

Beth said...

I have never commented on your blog, but I feel as if I know your sweet little family because of my "blog stalking" :) Anyway, my 9-year-old daughter once bit another little girl because the little girl kept pushing her (they were 3!). My son, when he was one, would bite me when he wanted down. You know how they want to get down to walk at such inappropriate times? Well...he bit my shoulder while we were at my daughter's PTA meeting and talking to the principal! I can completely relate to your embarrassment! So sorry it happened, but it is very common.

Jenna said...

I have a friend who's little boy got kicked out of preschool for biting. It was def one of those things that was NOT funny at the time, but now is hilarious. A good story to tell through the years or at his rehearsal dinner, etc. :-)

Bless your sweet mama-heart. And it really is cute that he was wanting to show so much love and affection to a stranger (Love hurts sometimes, people!). Such a sweet babe!

Sarah said...

I am not a Mom so I can't speak out of any experience but do remember my Mom saying that my baby brother was a biter (I cried the tears as proof). It got so bad that the only solution to the problem was to bite back - horrible,right? My Mom said he didn't understand that it hurt people when he did that so showing him was the only way to get it to stop. It took my Mom a few times to actually really bite back because it hurt her so much to do it.

Don't know if that helps or hurts you more... just trying to "help" based on the knowledge of the wonderful Mom I had...I hope it stops soon!

Meet the Brummett's said...

Hi! I just wanted to say, along with everyone else, that biting is completely normal...but not ok. :) I have twins that are 19 mos and they went through a biting phase about 3 months ago. They only bit each other a couple times, but they would bite me more. I started "biting" them back! I didn't actually bite, but I would put my teeth on them and say "no bit." I think I shocked them so much that it only took a couple times of me doing that and they have never bit again! I did the same things when our boys were around 3 & 4. They were constantly pinching, and I started pinching them back, not bad of course, and they stopped. Sorry, this turned in to a longer post than expected, but just wanted to share. Good luck and Merry Christmas!

Ashley said...

First time commenter here: My son went through the biting stage at about Brody's age. I had not a clue what to go about it. I think he got bored with it because it didn't last long thank goodness.
I will have to admit that this story made me giggle!

The Schramkos! said...

When Boston would teethe really bad ( like two or three at a time) she would clamp down on my shoulder! It hurt sooo bad! She never did it to anyone else but most people understand they are just kids ya know? One time she was "hugging" me around the neck and bit into my neck like a vampire and I screamed bloody murder! After I got the grip off of her teeth.. I had a huge blood blister mark! ouch! Just glad she felt like she could release that feeling to her mother! He will be ok.. hes too cute to get mad at :)

Casey said...

Hi! Love your blog!! Just wanted to say the same thing... it's normal! My son went through a biting stage and bit other children, his teachers, our pediatrician and mostly ME for about 6 months. It was AWFUL! I noticed it happened whenever he was having an extreme emotion in one way or another (fear, happiness, excitment, hunger, scared, etc.) and couldn't verbalize it. Just have an over reaction to it and distance yourself from them. It will eventually get better, but hang in there- it's terrible while it's going on!!!

The Allens said...

Oh, Jennifer! Bless your heart! You really handled it very well. And, yes, I think it is normal.

Superchikk said...

I'm sorry, but I'm laughing hysterically right now. ;) Isn't motherhood fun?

Caedmon bit, but he only bit me! And it was usually while I was holding him, so it was always my arm or shoulder. I would scream and thump him in the cheek. He finally figured out that wasn't the proper way to express himself I guess, because he hasn't done it in a long time!

sloandefyinggravity said...

Well, as an innocent bystander, this is hilarious! But I know it wasn't to you, at the time. When I was younger, my brother used to bite me all the time (unprovoked, I swear!) My mom said the only thing that worked was when SHE finally bit him! She said it was the hardest thing she's ever done, but he never bit again!

Jane said...

Haha! We had a biter in my family! It was my youngest cousin and I remember him biting his older sister (who was 22 at the time) told him if he bit her one more time she would bite him back! And guess what, he bit her so she bit him back and he never bit anyone again!

Good luck! :)

Amanda M. said...

I have never had a biter, but I have tons of friends who have and I think it's totally normal and just a phase.
Your story, well I am sorry but I cannot stop laughing! You are hilarious!

spiritmom said...

I became desperate when other parents were nervous to have their child around my son. I ended up washing his little mouth out with soap a few times after his "attacks". It worked, and today he is a happy 9 year old with no hard feelings towards me!

The Niemeyer Nest said...

I am about to wet my pants from laughing so hard! I LOVE this story and it made my day - probably because it was not my kid! I am so sorry this happened and let us know if you learn any ways to prevent this in the future. My daughter has not bit yet but she only has 2 teeth.

Jennifer said...

Yup, mine did/does it too. He's only bit a stranger once, it was another kid at the playground @ the mall. And he's been bitten at that playground too! But nothing serious either time. Just another fun part of having little ones!

Annie said...

I think that it is totally normal (said in a hopeful tone)...I used to put my finger in Blakes mouth while he was teething...BUT now that he has teeth...he wants to put my finger in and bite! I am trying to teach him that this is a NO-NO! Hopefully they will grow out of this!!

Ashley said...

Oh my goodness, little stinker! My time is coming, I can feel it!!!

Miss you sweet girl!

Laurie said...

Jennifer-I loved your story. SK is mean as a snake and she has TRIED to bite Emily twice.
Merry Christmas!

babydixon said...

Yes! My 14 month old son went through a couple of months of biting! Thankfully only his family - everytime he did it we would sternly say "No" and put him down if we were holding him or move away if we were sitting close. I guess he got the picture he doesn't do it anymore!

Anne N. said...

Both of my children were biters, sad to say. It was SOOOOOO embarrassing. THe first time it happened at MDO with my daughter when she was 2. The director made me feel lower than dirt....like I was "teaching" her to do this! YIKES. I even bought a cute picture book on Amazon..."NO MORE BITING!" You're not alone...you didn't do anything wrong...and it's just a phase. Both kids are now 11 and 8 and I'm proud to say they are no longer BITERS!

Love your blog!

Cindy said...

My youngest was a biter. Around your son's age too. He finally outgrew it. I just didn't give a reaction to him, but told him a firm no. It's not fun though!!
On the note of being embarassed, the other day we were grocery shopping and my two year old reached in the back of the cart (this was sooo fast!) and threw a loaf of bread at a man. I was soooo embarassed!! I kept appologizing and thankfully the man laughed.

Katie said...

That is so funny! I cannot stop laughing!!! I love it that he bites as a sign of affection....and I LOVE that you said that to the man! Hahahaha! Such a good story!!!!

Elizabeth Koproski said...

I'm crying b/c I'm laughing so hard at the picture in my mind of you bowing to that guy... and I don't even know you! I have a 3 year old girl and 2, 2 year old boys and I KNOW it feels like a reflection on you, but it totally isnt!!! They all do it at least once or twice (or 39 times.) You're not a bad mom 'cuz your boy bit a strager in the led (ha! still crying!) you're just human.

merry christmas!

jdpw said...

This is the funniest thing I've read in a long time! I love reading your blog. Brody is a precious little boy!

ilovepink said...

My 11 mo old daughter does this too. She just gets sooooo excited!

Jill said...

I can't wait until your son reads this post someday. Tooo funny!! Good luck!